The glorious orgasm is a central feature of sex and some might describe it as the ultimate experience of pleasure. However, the paths to orgasm are varied and there is no perfect formula of reaching the big-O. Some women rely on the power of vibrations, while others are more likely to reach climax with a little help from a friendly tongue.

And though a rare few can reach the heights of ecstasy through breast play and fantasy alone, the experience of orgasm can be highly elusive. An estimated ten percent of women have never had one and the vast majority (approximately two-thirds) do not reach orgasm consistently during intercourse alone.

While positive body image, fantasy, reduced stress levels and engagement in a variety of sexual acts are positively correlated with the experience of orgasm, we have a few more specific suggestions designed to help you discover new pathways to bigger, better orgasms:

Running Water

If you have a detachable shower head and have never tried it out as a...

We’ve waited all year for summer to roll around and it’s finally here! Take advantage of the beautiful weather and try out these simple sex tips to make it the best season yet!

Explore Hot & Cold Erogenous Zones

As your skin adapts to prolonged periods of heat, your sensitivity can decrease, but a little temperature play can reinvigorate your sensual response. The areas of the skin most sensitive to heat include the fingertips, nose and elbows while the upper lip, chin, nose, chest and fingers are more responsive to cold. Get creative this summer using warm oils, frozen grapes, popsicles or chilled champagne to add some well-timed temperature changes that will awaken your senses in the most erotic of ways.

Switch to Deodorant (as opposed to antiperspirant)

A little sweat can breathe new life into a stale sexual routine, as perspiring involves the secretion of powerful sexual chemicals known as pheromones. Not only do these subtle sexual catalysts send out signals to...

Jess took to Facebook to ask her followers what the hardest part about their relationships are. Here's what they had to say:

"Making decisions as a couple. Or learning to read your wife's emotions. Does she not feel well? Is she pissed? If she's pissed is it at you? She gets mad that I ask what's wrong and the typical response is "nothing". I've just resorted to assuming I'm the point if her frustration and hide." - Chris

"Saying you are sorry even if you know you are not the one who started it, but want to make peace not war and make love not hate." - Jack

"After you have an argument... and you realize that it was entirely your fault, but you were heated and upset.
So you argue hard, and say some stupid shit...then you realize you fucked up and trying to admit that you were the idiot. forgetting about the stupid shit you said after you two made up. That's tough for me." - Wayne

"Waiting for them to tell you what is bothering them." - Carrie

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I’m excited about this one! Last week I caught up with my friend, former co-worker, super mom, loving wife and Real Housewives of Toronto cast member, Grego Minot. We discuss the secret to a happy relationship and she dishes on love, passion and her new reality as a “real housewife”. Her hubby (and my former boss) Pierre Jutras also drops in for a surprise chat.

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The Secret to a Happy Relationship

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Hello. Hello, folks. This is Jessica O'Reilly, your friendly neighborhood sexologist. And we are here to look at the science, the data, the anecdotes that you can...

Do you have a friend who serves as a third wheel to your relationship tricycle? This morning, Jess sat down with Jeff McArthur on Global TV's The Morning Show to discuss the benefits of couple-friend threesomes and offer some practical advice. Check out her notes and video below.

What should you do if you feel like a third wheel?

• Know that the latest research is falling on your side: new research suggests that singles report higher levels of fulfilment, self-determination and personal growth.
• In terms of practical strategies, cultivate a relationship with both parties and consider making plans with one member of the couple at a time.
• Introduce them to some of your other friends and let them know if their lovey-dovey (or conflict) behaviour is making you uncomfortable — they may not even realize it.
• And of course, be happy for them!

What are the benefits of being the third wheel?

• You get the best of both worlds — social support as well as the freedom to grow....

This week, Jess is joined by Rachel Gelman, a pelvic floor physical therapist from San Francisco. Rachel shares her unique insight on pelvic floor health, sexual pain and the fact that Kegels are overprescribed. Tune in to find out if you should be doing Kegels.

Follow Rachel on Instagram here or on her website.

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STOP! Don’t Do Kegels!

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Hello, my friends. This is Sexologist Jess O'Reilly. Of course, your friendly neighborhood sexpert. And every neighborhood should have a sex birth. That's what I think. And today, as usual, in the next 20 minutes or so, we're going to...

Do your in-laws cause rifts in your relationship? This morning on Global TV's The Morning Show, I discuss why these conflicts exist and what you can do to avoid them in the future. Check out my advice and the video below.

A British study suggests in-laws are to blame for marital strife.

1. What did this study find?

• According to the 2000 husband and wives surveyed, 60% blame their in-laws for fights in their marriages.
• 20% report that they lack privacy in their relationship because in-laws drop in unannounced and/or overstay their welcome; this would certainly vary by culture, as in some cultures (like mine!), it’s not uncommon for parents to live with their grown-up children.
• 19% report that borrowing money from in-laws (for home purchases) may be to blame for their interference in their relationship.
• One-quarter report that they would not have gone through with the marriage had they known how bad the “in-law” problem would be.
• 18% have considered splitting up...

This week, Jess discusses the importance of forgiveness on Global TV's The Morning Show with Jeff McArthur. She briefly outlines the four stages of forgiveness therapy and the benefits of forgiveness in the video and summary below.

How do you forgive someone who has wronged you?

First you need to understand what forgiveness is.

Forgiveness isn’t just about saying or hearing you’re sorry. And it’s not about declaring your forgiveness to the world. Forgiveness involves letting go of negative feelings — it’s a conscious choice by someone who acknowledges that they were wronged (i.e. they weren’t deserving of the poor treatment), but opts to let go of the negative feelings nonetheless.

And forgiveness is a distinct process from other responses; when you forgive, it’s not the same as condoning, forgetting or excusing behaviour.

Once you understand the meaning of forgiveness, how do you put it into practice?

You can follow the...

Sex-bots are coming and the future is rather exciting! This week, Neil McArthur, The Director of the Centre for Applied Ethics from the University of Manitoba, joins us to discuss his research with sex robots. He shares his insights on the ethics of “using” sex robots and their potential benefits from a compassionate perspective.

Pre-order Neil's book on Amazon today!

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Sex Robots: Technology, Ethics & What The Future Holds

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Hello. Hello. This is Jess O'Reilly. I am sex with Dr. Jess. And as usual, I am here to give you practical information grounded in...

If your ex cheated, diving back into the world of dating can be intimidating. But being cheated on doesn’t mean the end of romance, intimacy and happy relationships — in fact, it’s just the beginning. If your ex cheated, you can still find love, fulfilment and commitment - and you deserve it all.

Consider these strategies for moving onward and upward:

Do not accept responsibility for a cheater. Know that it’s not you — it’s them. Your ex cheated because they chose to cheat. You were not the “cause” of their cheating, so there is no reason to assume that your next partner will cheat too.

Date outside of your comfort zone. Do you have a certain “type” to which that you tend to be attracted? Try getting to know different types of people and hang out in different venues to see if your attraction is broader than you realized. You might attract someone with whom trust arises more...