Episode 30: Confessions of a Funny Poly Lady
Jess speaks with comedian, Christina Walkinshaw, on what it’s like to be polyamorous. Jess and Christina draw from Christina’s blog, ‘Becoming Poly’, which discusses how Christina met her current partner and how she’s adapting to the poly world. Listen below!
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Are We Replacing the 'Ro' With the 'Bro'?
A study suggests that young heterosexual men are happier with their friendships than they are with their romantic relationships. Jess joined Jeff on The Morning Show to dissect the study findings. Check out the video and summary notes below.
1. Are bromances really replacing romances?
Of course not. Men have been friends with other men (regardless of sexual orientation) since the beginning of human existence and they still seek out romantic relationships.
2. What did this study find?
- It was a small-scale study of 30 undergraduate heterosexual males.
- They found that the men in the study felt less judged by their close male friends than by their girlfriends and that it was easier for them to overcome conflicts and express their emotions in their bromances than in their romances.
3. Does this mean that men like their friends better than they like their partners? Or that they might as well forgo romantic relationships with women?
- In some cases, they may have...
Donā€™t Let Kids Ruin Your Marriage!
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Three decades of research suggests that having kids is associated with an unhappy marriage, but it doesn’t have to be this way! Parenting Expert, Alyson Schafer joins Jess to share practical tips to help you live (almost) happily ever regardless of whether or not you have kids. Tune in to learn about no-ego parenting and the “couples counsel” approach that could revolutionize the way you communicate with your partner.
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How Would You Deal with Sexual Harassment in Your Workplace?
Jess finally made it back to Canada yesterday and this morning she joined Jeff on The Morning Show to discuss sexual harassment in light of the Harvey Weinstein case.
How common is sexual harassment?
- More than one quarter 28% have experienced sexual harassment in the workplace.
What is the gender divide?
- The numbers are higher for women, but men are affected too: 43% and 12%.
- One-quarter of those who are harassed say that management was unresponsive or dismissive of the issue.
What is it really about?
- Power, entitlement and a deficit of empathy.
- Effects: emotional for individual and witnesses; organizational (toxic workplace, decline in productivity etc.)
Donna Karan says they’re asking for it.
- By the way we dress we’re "asking for trouble"? So the dresses she designs — are they harassment-proof? Or are her dresses also equipping us to “ask for it”? This is absurd. I understand that she has...
Men Share Their Biggest Sexual Turn-Offs
Think your shiny red lipstick and cutesy bedroom voice are your secret weapons to take him over the edge and keep him coming back for more? You may just want to think again. While each man’s turn-ons and turn-offs are unique, we’ve compiled a list of some of the most common complaints we hear from men with regard to what leaves them feeling as though they’ve just taken an icy cold shower...shrinkage and all.
Poor Hygiene
Apparently weekly showers and brushing your teeth every second day just won’t cut it for the discerning men of the twenty-first century. Bad hygiene tops the list of sexual turn-offs with men complaining of bad breath, spiky stubble, and day-old cigarette smoke odor.
You don’t have to shave it all off or scrub your skin until it glistens (ouch!), but it is good practice to pay some attention to your hygiene and grooming habits once you’re in a long-term relationship. Think back to your early dates and the effort you put into...
Do You Have Sexpectations Around Family Members?
Did you grow up in a family that gives passionate, long hugs every night before bedtime? Or was affection restricted to a peck on the cheek on special occasions? Do your partner’s parents give enthusiastic, sloppy kisses or do they seem to avoid physical contact altogether? Whatever your upbringing, it is likely that your expectations with regard to touch, affection, and sex differ from those of your sweetheart.
We often talk about the challenges of blending families from different cultural and religious backgrounds, but family norms with regard to the body can also cause friction during in day-to-day interactions and family get-togethers. During the holiday season, dinner parties, gift-giving, mistletoes and visiting relatives can create tension around physical touch, sleeping arrangements, and even dinner conversation. Read through some of the more common challenges below along with some tips for graciously navigating divergent expectations.
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6 Surprising and Bizarre Ways Women Reach Orgasm
By now we all know that the majority of women do not have orgasms during intercourse, but some of the other ways we climax might just surprise you.
From unconventional methods to startling locations, read on to discover some of the remarkable ways women experience mind-blowing orgasms.
Working Out
You’ve probably heard that doing your kegels can make your nether regions tingle with delight, but would you ever have guessed that abdominal crunches could have the same effect? That’s right! Reports of women reaching new heights of sexual pleasure while exercising are baffling scientists who can’t yet explain these so-called coregasms.
From crunches and push-ups to weightlifting and spinning, women are leaving the gym all worked up in more ways than one. So if you’re wondering why you feel all hot and bothered after a good core workout, rest assured that it’s not the men in unitards revving your engine.
Thinking Off
Look Ma, No hands!
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Cheating in the Digital Age
In light of Kevin Hart coming clean about his unfaithful tendencies, Jeff and Jess discussed cheating in the digital age this week on Global TV's The Morning Show. Check out Jess' expanded notes and video below.
How prevalent is cheating?
- Studies range in data from 1% to 85%, but a review of 31 studies suggests that for married people it’s between 20%-25% and for non-married people (e.g. college students), it ranges from 33%-50%.
- These figures likely reflect underreporting.
Is cheating on the rise?
- A review of data from the nationally representative US General Social Survey from 1990-2012 reveals that rates of admission have been consistent for the past 20 years despite the belief that we have more opportunities than ever.
- Reporting rates for women, however, have increased — we’re closing the gap.
Are you more likely to get caught now because of digital technology?
- 1/3 of partners admit to snooping — reading emails and texts; if...
The Curious World of Paraphiliaā€™s Ch. 1: FromĀ Autoerotic Asphyxiation to Zoophilia
Most of us at some point in our sexual lives will have experienced, what we may consider to be, an atypical sexual thought or behaviour. But does atypical necessarily mean pathological? Today most sex scientists and therapists believe that only a small portion of atypical sexuality needs to be cordoned off as pathological. In most cases, variant sexual interests are at worst harmless oddities, and at best the spice of life for a relationship. But where do we draw the line?
According to the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fifth Ed. (DSM V, i.e. the psychiatrist’s bible) sexual interests fall into two categories, those that are normal (normophilic) and those that are anomalous (paraphilic). According to the same source, paraphilias are defined as intense and persistent sexual interests outside of foreplay and genital stimulation with consenting adults. While the definition is broad enough to include hundreds of specific paraphilia’s, the DSM labels only...
All About Sex Clubs!
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Sex clubs are becoming more mainstream. Jess shares her observations about sex clubs and chats with Fatima Mechtab who shares her stories (including one about a blowup doll!), tips and insights. Click here to find a sex club near you.
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A few additional notes on sex clubs:
Many of the couples I work with visit sex clubs to get their juices flowing. They dance, flirt, watch and leave without ever having sex or reaching orgasm. They use their experience as both fodder for intimate conversations (emotional) and as material for sexual foreplay. In many cases, the anticipation is hotter than the reward, which makes sense, as dopamine levels can be twice as high during the anticipation pleasure as when you experience the pleasure itself.
You don’t have to...
