Jess is Chinese-Jamaican-Irish-Canadian. Brandon is Canadian of British descent. Race and culture have always been central topics in our relationship and this week, we’re sharing our perspective as a mixed-race couple. We don’t speak for anyone but ourselves, but we hope this conversation leads to more meaningful ones in your own relationships. We discuss:

• Jess’ mixed race experience and expectations as a model minority
• The importance of creating safe spaces for your partner in mixed-race relationships
• How to deal with family members’ blatant and subtle racism
• 5 insights for white folks looking to support POC in relationships

To learn more about how you can navigate difficult conversations about race, check out Jess' interview on Global TV's The Morning Show here.

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This week, Jess teams up with April Lampert and Amy Baldwin from the Shameless Sex Podcast to tackle listener questions including:

1. How can I deal with sensitive genitals (e.g. labia)?
2. How can I make sex less threatening after sexual assault? How do I talk to a new partner about past trauma?
3. What should I do about labia hypertrophy and how do I get more comfortable with my body?
4. How do I get over body shame related to things my ex said to berate my body?
5. I hear so much about eye contact as a tool of flirtation and connection. How else can I flirt without using my eyes since I’m almost blind?
6. How do Canadians pronounce the word about? ;)

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Sexual pain is not in your head. Dr. Sonia Bahlani, founder of PelvicPainDoc.com and author of The Holistic Guide to Navigating Pelvic Pain joins us to answer so many questions including:

• How do I deal with painful orgasms? It feels like the head of my penis is being pushed through broken glass.
• How do my bowel movements and constipation affect sexual functioning & orgasm?
• How can an anti-inflammatory diet improve sex?
• How can yoga improve sexual functioning and pelvic floor tone?
• Why does sex hurt?
• Why don’t I feel anything during sex?
• Are there injections, creams or medicines that can help with pelvic pain?

Dr. Sonia also discusses why preventative medicine is essential to sexual health, various diagnoses related to sexual pain and how holistic approaches can revolutionize your (sex) life.

Also be sure to listen to our episode on pelvic floor health, postpartum sex, perineal massage and de-stressing your vagina.

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Urologist and sexual wellness expert Dr. Jed Kaminetsky joins us to talk about all things sex including:

• Multiple approaches to lasting longer in bed
• The role or testosterone in sexual desire and functioning
• Orgasm difficulties
• Premature ejaculation
• Delayed orgasm
• The role of muscle memory and neuropathways in orgasm
• Promescent (Use code JESS15 at checkout for 15% off!)

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Not everyone wants to last longer in bed, but if you’re interested in learning more about ejaculatory control, check out our Last Longer in Bed: 6 Steps to Master Premature Ejaculation course which includes exercises in mindfulness, muscle mastery and communication.

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Sex therapist Vanessa Marin helps Jess and Brandon to explore their sex personality types and how we can use them to better understand our own needs and our partners’.

The 11 sex personality types include:

• The Explorer : sex is your playground, the element of unknown
• The Prioritizer: to know that sex is something you and your partner are willing to prioritize
• The Decompresser: sex is a form of stress relief
• The Fair Trader: generosity is the most important quality of sex, balance of giving and receiving
• The Giver: sex and pleasure is a gift to give to their partner
• The Guardian: safety and security is of the utmost importance during sex
• The Passion Pursuer: you want sex to feel all encompassing, losing yourself in the moment and letting go
• The Pleasure Seeker: the pure physical pleasure to sex
• The Romantic: sex is all about connection, emotional intimacy with...

Antuanette Gomez, CEO of Pleasure Peaks joins Jess & Brandon to talk about sex and cannabis. Pleasure Peaks is a sexual health company that develops products for women to have an optimal and healthy sex and this week, we discuss:

• How cannabis can be used to assuage pain and symptoms related to Endometriosis, PCOS, trauma, infertility, and menstrual pain
• Topical uses of non-psychotropic cannabis products
• Cannabis baths
• CBD vs THC
• Cannabis as a superfood
• The role of our endocannabinoid system
• How cannabis suppositories have been used to treat endometriosis
• Pleasure Island retreats
• Strain journaling
• Advice for newbies
• Her role as a young WOC in a now white-dominated field

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Marla & Jess wrote a book, The Ultimate Guide to Foreplay & Seduction! They’re having a virtual launch party to celebrate: Wednesday, June 24th at 7pm EST. Register to attend for free! 

In this week’s episode, Jess and Marla chat about their book launch as well as:

• Marla’s thoughts on BLM
• Pleasure as resistance
• Sex Down South
• What makes us seductive
• How we entice our lovers
• How we manage rejection

They work their way through one of the Lovers’ Inquiries in the book and encourage you to consider these questions/discussions prompts too:

• What is the most seductive thing about you?
• What have other people told you about your sex appeal? What do they say turns them on when it comes to your personality, behaviour or appearance?
• What makes you anti-seductive? Would you like to change anything about your behaviour or approach?
• What do people find curious about you? How do you entice others to be curious about you?
• Do you consider...

Marriage and family therapist Shadeen Francis joins us to talk about X-Men, therapy, vulnerability and emptying the jug. She helps us to explore the following questions:

• How can the “emptying the jug” approach lead to more fulfilling relationships?
• How can we even begin to open up and let our guard down?
• What language can we use if we’re new to opening up and letting others in?
• How can empathy transform experiences?
• How is self-esteem tied to vulnerability?
• What does it mean to be vulnerable — the good and the bad?
• How can distraction be useful when dealing with difficult experiences?
• How can we improve communication around challenging topics?
• How can we open up and be more open to being emotionally impacted?

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 Andrea Werhun, author of Modern Whore, joins Jess and Brandon to share her personal story as a sex worker, performer and author. She discusses her beautiful journey into sex work and how her work has shifted during physical distancing and isolation. They also discuss:

• What makes an escort enjoy the experience with a client
• How sex workers and their clients build trust and connection in their relationships
• Andrea’s Hire-A-Muse packages
• The coming out process and Andrea’s story of sharing her truth with her Mom & Dad
• How to be an ally to sex workers and how to be sex worker-positive
• Jess’ experience with sex workers at her first SAR
• Sex work as a healing profession
• The benefits of sex work
• Insights from sex work that can benefit all daters
• Stripping vs. Escorting and the whorearchy 
• The importance of labour rights for sex workers

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Wendy Miller, host of Sex Ed The Musical Podcast, joins us to discuss her experience as the former Head of Production with PlayboyTV. She shares stories from the Playboy set shoots as well as insights from the Under Covers series, which explored the real stories of women from all walks of life. They discuss PlayboyTV’s Swing, the toll TV representations can take on body image and their “Sexual Golden Tickets”. Listen now and learn more!

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