• What are the most common issues in therapy today?
• Should new couples go to therapy?
• How do you know if you’re a good fit or if you’re forcing it?
• How do you invest in the relationship without overanalyzing it?

April Grigsby joins us to weigh in with insights from her practice. She is a licensed clinical social worker based in New York City and is focused on empathic listening and building up her clients’ strengths so they can solve problems. She empowers individuals to manage anxiety, depression, life transitions, and identity challenges. She also works with couples to improve relationship dynamics.

April attained her BS from Yale University and her MSW from Columbia University. April is currently a candidate in the NYU Silver School of Social Work DSW program. You can learn more about her work, research, and practice here.

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Board - certified urologist; Dr. Joshua Gonzalez joins us to answer your sexual health questions.

• What can I do about ED? Are there natural treatment options for someone on blood pressure meds?
• How can I deal with Interstitial Cystitis?
• What can I do about vaginal atrophy, itchiness, and irritation?
• Should I be worried that one testicle pulls up into my body at orgasm?
• Can I speed up my orgasm? I have delayed ejaculation.
• What can I do to improve the taste of my ejaculate?

Our guest, Dr. Josh Gonzalez is fellowship-trained in Sexual Medicine and specializes in the management of sexual dysfunctions. He completed his medical education at Columbia University and his urological residency at the Mount Sinai Medical Center. Throughout his career, Dr. Gonzalez has focused on advocating for sexual health and by; providing improved healthcare to the LGBTQ+ community. You can follow Dr. Gonzalez on his social media accounts from his Twitter to his Instagram.

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Take your pleasure to the next level by exploring the emotions that intensify the experience. Your elevated erotic feelings (EEFs), can heighten physical pleasure, psychological thrill, emotional fulfillment, intimate connection, spiritual experience, and much more. In most cases, no physical technique or position can compare to exploring the emotional dimensions of pleasure, so this week, we dive deeper into the emotional-erotic connection.

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How do you need to feel in order to get in the mood for sex? Relaxed? Loved? Safe? Desired?

Your core erotic feeling (CEF) is the feeling you require in order to get in the mood for sex, and it can revolutionize the way you approach pleasure, seduction, and sex.

If you or a partner; have trouble getting in the mood, or if you find that erotic touch often isn’t enough - this episode will help you better understand the emotional-erotic connection, so you can have all the hot sex you desire.

If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible.

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• What is the appeal of sissification?
• How do you introduce kinky play to a partner?
• What are the 7 types of sissification?
• How can consensual humiliation become erotic?

Sexologist & psychotherapist Carlos Cavazos (pronounced Kuh-Voss-oh's) joins us to share his experience and perspective on kinks, fetishes, gender-bending, and much more! Check out Carlos’ The Naughtylicious Sex Podcast, and learn more about his practice at Counseling By Carlos. And don't forget to give Carlos a follow on his Twitter account!

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• How often should you get tested?
• What are the risks of oral sex?
• What are the risks of giving oral when you have a cold sore?
• How can you reduce the risk of STI transmission?
• What do STI tests entail?
• Can you get any STIs from a toilet seat or bed sheets?
• How soon should you get tested after potential exposure?

Dr. Ina Park, author of Strange Bedfellows, Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs joins us to answer all of our questions about making sex safer and de-stigmatizing STIs. You can follow Ina on Instagram to learn more!

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• How can I use my breath to explore multiple orgasms?
• Are there different types of multiple orgasms?
• How many orgasms can you have in one session?
• How do I have full-body orgasms?

We explore these questions and more while sharing techniques and strategies for more pleasure (and more orgasms) — from the “cup and pulse” technique to the blended orgasm, you’re sure to find something new to try whether your partnered or solo.

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Luna Matatas & Marla Renee Stewart join us to offer a sneak peek into their Kinky Tapas retreat. They answer all of our questions including:

• How do I begin to explore my dominant side?
• What’s the difference between Dominance & submission versus Topping and Bottoming?
• How do I ensure safety when exploring psychological kink?
• How do I introduce a bit of kink into our existing sexual routine?
• When can pain be pleasurable?
• How can I explore genital worship and torture?

Check out the Kinky Tapas seminar in Oakland, California April 29th - May 1st. (Use code KINKMEUP to save!) Hosted in two beautiful dungeons, the event includes catering & kinky photography and explorations of a range of topics including:

Luna & Marla will take you to two dungeons in California where they’ll cover:

• Confidence and erotic creativity
• Scene Setting, Safety & Communication
• Commanding a Room
• Developing confidence and presence
• Dominant Do’s and Don’ts
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• Do you struggle with rejection?
• How does your response vary from the boardroom to the bedroom?
• Do layers of your identity affect how you deal with rejection?

We surveyed our community regarding their experiences of rejection, and we shared their insights in this week’s episode. We think it’s a great one! Thank you to those who sent messages. We appreciate you.

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If you’re looking for an episode on sexual initiation techniques, click here.

Check out the 12 insights on managing rejection below, as well as the full transcript (scroll down).

12 Insights on Rejection from Our Community

(Some of these have been edited for clarity/brevity.)

1. Why can women say no to sex, but when a guy says no, it’s crazy?
2. For me, it’s all about connection. When I get rejected over and over again, it brings up...

What should you do when a love interest pulls back out of nowhere? Perhaps you’re hitting it off and then all of a sudden things change — texts messages become sparser, response times are longer or they simply wait for you to initiate. They’re still engaged and don’t seem to want to end things, but you’re left feeling confused and rejected. Jess & Brandon weigh in with their thoughts and scripts to help you respond and they also talk about their experiences with rejection.

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