Does Your Partner Cheat? Part 1

That Depends On Your Definition of Cheating.

What is cheating? Does a kiss, a long glance, a casual screw, an online romance or a secret emotional connection constitute relationship infidelity? As a culture that celebrates diversity, it is important to remember that relationships come in all shapes and sizes. Accordingly, there is no determinate set of acts or behaviours can be universally considered cheating. Some people are open to (even welcoming of) friendly flirting, intimate friendships and casual threesomes, while others cringe at the thought of sharing their partners.

There is no perfect fit for relationships. Serial monogamy, polyamory, open relationship triads, swinging and a range of other options are all legitimate and potentially challenging arrangements. Proponents of monogamy may claim that their relationship provides more intense intimacy and companionship, while polyamorists may view monogamy as a limiting form of possession.

It is easy to be critical or judgmental of relationships that are different from our own, but ultimately, it is a personal choice and all types of relationships that underscore honesty, equality and respect should be enjoyed and celebrated.

Because our subjective expectations of fidelity within relationships differ, communication is of utmost importance. It may feel unnatural or unromantic to talk about specific expectations, but it is the only sure-fire way to ensure that you're on the same page as your partners. It is better to talk openly about boundaries before they begin to be challenged as opposed to wondering whether or not your behaviour or that of your partners constitutes cheating.

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One element of non-monogamous relationships is the absolute need to communicate, establish rules and revisit agreed-upon arrangements. This is not to say that non-monogamous relationships are preferable to monogamous arrangements (non-monogamy presents unique challenges including intense social stigma), but simply that the requisite for open communication provides a framework for discussing desires, concerns, and expectations.

Those who opt for the common arrangement of monogamy may feel a greater sense of security and stability; however, as definitions of monogamy (sexual, emotional, intimate, spiritual, etc.) vary, a discussion of personal expectations is absolutely necessary.

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