All About the Clitoris Part 2

Continued from Part 1 here...

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It is not uncommon for a woman to have trouble visually locating her clitoris, as it is not a body part that most of us learn about from a young age. In fact, you may have discovered its pleasure capacity by accident. If you haven’t had a chance to look at your clitoris, there is no time like the present! After a relaxing shower or bath, sit on your bum with your knees bent, legs spread and feet flat on the bed. Use a hand mirror as you pull up gently on the skin at the top of your inner labia (just below your pubic mound) to reveal your sensitive clitoral head. It is usually round and a bit shiny and protrudes from beneath the hood. Every woman’s body is different so yours may poke out conspicuously or only extend slightly from beneath its hood. Either way, know that you’re beautiful!

From the book of Kimberly (Age 55)

“I didn’t know what it was called until I hit 28! And I never actually looked at it until a few years later. I knew that it felt good to wrap my legs around the ceiling ropes in high school gym class, but I didn’t know why it felt so nice.” 

From the book of Tammy (Age 24)

“My hunt for the clitoris was purposeful. I was always taught to keep my hands away from down there and honestly, touching it really grossed me out. I think this relates to my general body image issues and it took months to get used to just looking at it. When I finally saw the little “ball” (head) of my clit, I was relieved. I always knew it was there, because I had rubbed it with my dildo plenty of times, but seeing it was kind of reaffirming. There is something about knowing and understanding your own body that puts you at ease.”

From the book of Zara (Age 23)

“I discovered mine when I crashed my bike into a stop sign. The seat and bar hit my pubic bone and the seat rubbed against my clit. It hurt but felt good at the same time!”

Dr. Jess Says...

Women often complain that their lovers treat the clitoris like an elevator button. Press and release. Press and release. Now that you are familiar with the anatomy of the entire clitoral complex, you likely understand why this approach might be less than thrilling. Poking against the glans of the clitoris is comparable to pressing on the head of the penis: it’s not the worst move ever since someone is touching your dick, but those hands could certainly be put to better use.

FAQ: If my wife has a small clitoris, can she still have orgasms?

Absolutely. There is no evidence that suggests that the size of our sexual organs impacts our experience of pleasure. And since you cannot see most of her clitoris, as most of its parts are buried beneath her skin, she may actually have a larger clitoris than you think. Moreover, if you notice that the glans of her clitoris retracts beneath her hood making it appear smaller, this may be attributable to high levels of arousal.